Today instead of reaching out to learn more about someone else, I wanted to write about reaching inwards to learn more about me – to learn the truth. I am finally beginning to understand that I have all the answerss to my own challenges inside me already and that the answer is not out there! Ultimately, happiness is indeed found inside. You just got to get past your own ego (your own BS) to get to it and remain there.
One of the biggest obstacles to finding your own happiness is YOU! We have this inner voice in our head that tell us all sorts of negative thoughts, that we can’t do it because of this or that, we make excuses because we don’t have the time, skill, right skin color or complexion. I will write more on dealing with this inner voice later on, but you get the point that we are our own worst enemy when it comes to finding and keeping happiness.
Then you have the external factors that also impede you from finding happiness. Today I want to talk about friends and everyone has two types. The first type are the ones that make you feel energized after you spend time with them, you leave the conversation feeling confident and on top of the world. The other type of “friend” makes you feel confused, not confident, un-supported, and a bunch of other negative feelings – ultimately sucking your energy dry after you leave the conversation. Think about it for a second and run through your friend memory bank and you’ll know what I mean.
All things being equal, no one is perfect! Sometimes it’s hard being my own friend and living with myself. So the last thing I need in life is to have an actual friend that constantly suck me down and drain my precious energy that I need to get through the day. I simply don’t have time for that kind of “friend” anymore. And this week I actually offered one of my old friend of many years an option. Renew our friendship in a more positive healthy way, or walk away. I was disappointed by his response, so I said “I am done – all the best!”
At this point in my life I simply don’t have the time nor the patience to deal with negative draining energy sources. I appreciate myself to much to be around that. I would rather surround myself with positive, encouraging people. As all my good friends know, I don’t care who you are, what color you might be, what you do for a living – if you are good to me, I will be good to you!
When it comes to friends and acquaintances, cut ties sooner than later when your gut tells you the relationship is unhealthy for you. If you had cancer, wouldn’t you try to get rid of it? If you had something that caused you pain inside, you would remove it immediately. So why keep an unhealthy friend in your life! Be brave, be courageous… give them the respect and explain to them your feelings (or not) then offer them a choice. As you hear the answer, stay true to yourself and proceed with confidence forward either firming up the relationship, or dropping it immediately! Love to hear your thoughts on this...
(Buddy, if you are reading this, I am always here for you. Perhaps later on when our frequencies match up better we will chat and hang out again; but for now, I need all the energy I can get to do what I have to do. I wish you the best.)
Miki is a renowned motivational speaker and author. He appeared in the 2015 Oscar nominated film "The Last Days in Vietnam" directed and produced by Rory Kennedy, the youngest daughter of Robert F. Kennedy. He often speaks to others on the ways in which they can better their lives. His history is well documented in the documentary that shares the amazing story of his father Ba Van Nguyen and his bravery during the last few days in the Fall of Saigon. His message is one of enlightenment and courage. Miki has overcome many obstacles as he and his family worked hard to create a life in the United States while their homeland was being torn apart. Through his father’s example of courage and commitment to a better life for his family Miki is inspired to be the best he can be and be of service to others by sharing his and his family’s experiences in an effort to give hope to all refugees who take the enormous risks of leaving everything behind in hopes of a better life.
Miki is available for speaking engagements on a number of topics and also has a new book to be published soon that will offer instruction and inspiration through the recanting of his life and his experiences in this extraordinary world we all call home. For more information visit http://www.mikinguyen.com