Who doesn’t love Chinese food? Come on now, at least once a week, Chinese food is a part of what I stuff in my face! I don’t rarely take food porn shots unless it is the best I have ever tasted, and so when I do post food shots it will already have been half consumed along with my comment. Guess what I ate today for lunch?
Too easy of course - Chinese. The lunch special was ok, but what caught my attention was written on this fortune cookie paper. Correct me if I am wrong, but I can’t think of any other type of restaurant that gives these little nuggets of goodness and advice away after the meal is done. Where else can a little piece of paper make you pause for a second or two to wonder if the fortune is accurate or if it will come true? Most will simply smile, throw the paper back down the table and walk away without giving it any further thought. Some, like me, will keep the good ones! ... just in case it *might* come true. What would life be if there were no hopes or dreams! Even a $1 lotto can kick start a dream - the old saying, “everything starts with a dream” right?
The fortune I got today was not about financial fortune, or “That I will be hungry again in 1 hour”, but more profound in meaning. My fortune today should have been taken for granted in life and not just applied “these next few days” (Like a fortune that says, “You like Chinese food!”). Listening and understanding, without judgment, during a conversation is awfully important in any relationship, marriage, corporate setting, and 1:1 interaction. Listening and understanding are critical to finding that next business opportunity, hiring that new employee, and dealing with a potential challenge around the corner and how to deal with it. I have learned the hard way and failed on so many levels because of this listening issue.
Listening with our ears is one thing, but body language communicates even louder. By being focused and absorbing all that you can from the speaker, you can learn a lot from that person. This takes being present and turning up the awareness level – what is said, body position, facial movement and so on. There are a lot of materials on how to speak and how to give great presentations; I would also encourage you to read-up on how to be a better listener – all day, every day!
It took me a while to realize this in my life. I did listen in the past, but it was so one-dimensional. I was clueless to the other forms of subtle communications which is even more important to pick-up and be aware of. Many times when I am interacting with a customer and I try to convince them why this feature is good and why that feature has faster performance… I talk, and talk and forget to simply listen to the customer’s true needs. Perhaps he didn’t really care about all those features, and that if had listened closely all he wanted was to simply use the easiest technology possible – everything else was of no value to him, wasting both our times. The answers were there all along, you have to speak less and listen more to receive the answers! Sounds obvious but hard for most people.
Miki is a renowned motivational speaker and author. He appeared in the 2015 Oscar nominated film "The Last Days in Vietnam" directed and produced by Rory Kennedy, the youngest daughter of Robert F. Kennedy. He often speaks to others on the ways in which they can better their lives. His history is well documented in the documentary that shares the amazing story of his father Ba Van Nguyen and his bravery during the last few days in the Fall of Saigon. His message is one of enlightenment and courage. Miki has overcome many obstacles as he and his family worked hard to create a life in the United States while their homeland was being torn apart. Through his father’s example of courage and commitment to a better life for his family Miki is inspired to be the best he can be and be of service to others by sharing his and his family’s experiences in an effort to give hope to all refugees who take the enormous risks of leaving everything behind in hopes of a better life.
Miki is available for speaking engagements on a number of topics and also has a new book to be published soon that will offer instruction and inspiration through the recanting of his life and his experiences in this extraordinary world we all call home. For more information visit http://www.mikinguyen.com